Holidays, Events & Parties

Spiked Eggnog
Today is B’s birthday, and every time it rolls around I feel like I get off easy. He likes to go out to dinner as a family — which we did Saturday evening — and he’ll dig into a special birthday dessert I make and blow out some candles for the girls’ sake, but that’s about the extent of it. He hates it when I tell the restaurant staff it’s his birthday (and expressly asked me not to this time, because I usually can’t help myself). About the worst thing I could do for this guy would be to throw him a surprise party. My name would be mud.

I, on the other hand, not only like to celebrate my birthday in grand fashion, but the event usually extends itself over the course of days: I’ve got to do something with my family, and then local friends usually plan something, and then — because someone inevitably can’t make it, because its so close to Christmas — there might be a couple of one-on-one get-togethers a few days later. This past birthday, I think I had three separate birthday events spanning an eight-day period; it was essentially a birthday octave. I’ve been known to tell strangers that it’s my birthday — not because I want them to acknowledge it, but because I’m kind of like a kid about it and can’t keep my mouth shut.

B doesn’t get this at all, but at least he finds it funny.

The difference in how we celebrate birthdays definitely speaks to our personality types: I’m extroverted and social and love any excuse for a party. (I’ve also never quite left the stage behind.) B, on the other hand, is an introvert, not at all a social butterfly, and doesn’t like to draw attention to himself. He’s not quite a “bah humbug”-er, but he comes pretty close.

I’ve learned over the years to plan his birthdays the way he wants, and not the way I‘d want. It took me some time to learn that lesson, but I think I’ve got the hang of it now. Like I said, it’s certainly a lot less work, and more importantly, it makes him happy.

Tonight I’m making his favorite pie (he’s not a big cake fan), and we’ll stick a few candles in it and give him some cards and a small gift. (In another post, I’ll have to tell you about a bigger birthday gift he decided on — it’s a fun one!) As of bedtime tonight, B’s 2015 birthday will officially be wrapped up and we’ll get on with our week.

By the way, did I mention that I love the guy? I hope it’s his best year yet!

How do you celebrate birthdays? Is it different than the way your significant other or loved ones like to celebrate?

Image: Zoe Saint-Paul


Merry Christmas!

December 25, 2014


Saint Pauls at Park 2
Since this is the only half-decent shot taken of our family over the past few months, I’m hoping the bunny and kitten ears will distract you from how pooped B and I look. It’s been that kind of year — a good one, but a tiring one!

A heartfelt Merry Christmas to all of you celebrating over the next few days (and hopefully for at least 12 days)! I also hope my Jewish readers had a very beautiful Hanukkah (which ended last night at sundown). If you’re traveling, may it be uneventful, and if the holidays are a sad time for you, I hope you will experience the joy and peace of this season in some way.

We’re rolling with the punches here, since illness and canceled flights led to some change in plans with relatives, but everything today should fall right into place. My mother-in-law is finally here, my brother’s household is on the mend, and my girls seem to enjoy Christmas more each year, which makes it tons of fun.

It will be quiet here for the next few days as we celebrate the holiday as a family, but I’ll be back next week. Have a safe and joyful Christmas holiday, friends! xoxo

Image: JWR


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by Margaret Cabaniss

Holiday baking seems like one of those things that people simultaneously love and dread about the season: It’s just not Christmas without gingerbread, but it can be so. much. work. — particularly during a time when your to-do list is already a mile long. Last night capped off a day wherein I made twelve dozen cookies, so I feel like I’ve had a bit of crash course in big-batch holiday baking this week. If a tower of Christmas cookies looms in your future, consider a few tricks to help save your sanity:

Keep it simple. No less true for being obvious! Stick to one or two (maybe three) recipes that you know well and that are worth the effort — something where it just wouldn’t feel like Christmas without them. Streamlining the process keeps you from overbuying ingredients and overcommitting yourself to elaborate treats that take more time or input than they’re ultimately worth. If you just have to have the variety, consider a cookie swap with your friends: Everyone bakes a big batch of one item to share, so each guest can take home a sample of everything.

Another way to keep it simple? Do your holiday baking the week after Christmas, when there are no more gifts to buy, cards to write, or suitcases to pack. Most people are home from school or taking extended vacations that week anyway, so there’s much more time to relax and enjoy the process. Christmas lasts 12 days, after all — why not spread out the cheer?

Freeze your dough. 
This was the single handiest trick I used all week. It’s a lifesaver when your office holiday party is in the middle of the week, but you know you won’t have time to start from scratch the night before. Instead, I mixed up a big batch of dough when I had extra time over the weekend, froze individual portions, and then was able to quickly bake off exactly the number of cookies I needed later in the week, right when I needed them, even when I was low on time. Yes, some cookies freeze fine after baking, but I never find them to be quite as good after defrosting — certainly not compared to the freshly baked variety. If you’re going to go through the trouble of freezing anyway, make it on the front end.

The Kitchn recently posted this handy list of doughs that freeze well, and those that don’t (basically, lots of butter: good). Gingerbread and sugar cookie dough freeze great flattened into disks and wrapped in saran wrap and foil (or a ziploc bag); I froze individual balls of peanut blossom dough on a tray before dropping them in a ziploc bag, so they’d be easy to portion out later. My biscotti dough did fine in the fridge overnight, too — and Deb’s recent recipe for gingerbread biscotti is killer.

Break up the process
. Even when you do have the time to mix, roll out, bake, and decorate your cookies all in one sitting, I generally don’t enjoy spending hours baking and decorating and still having a mess to clean up in the kitchen afterward. Breaking up the process into manageable chunks means you can do the messy work one day, and the fun baking/decorating part with the kids later. Bonus: You can be doing two things at once this way (baking while you cook dinner, for instance), and your kitchen doesn’t have to remain a wreck through the whole process. For these peanut blossoms, I made the dough one afternoon, rolled the balls that night after dinner, then baked the cookies a few days later. Sometimes just getting to walk away and do something else for a bit breaks up the monotony and makes it all more enjoyable.

What are your tips and tricks for keeping holiday baking manageable this time of year? Any classic recipes you make every year?

Images: Margaret Cabaniss


How’s your December going so far? Have you made progress on your holiday gift lists, or are you still trying to find time to even think about it? Before it gets too close to Christmas, I wanted to mention a few companies I really like for holiday gifts for kids, in case you need some ideas…

Barefoot Books

Barefoot Books Christmas
I love Barefoot Books. Started by two moms in 1992, Barefoot is all about combining beautiful art with captivating storytelling. What also drew me to their products was their attention to cultural and social diversity. It’s not always easy to find books that I’m excited to give my daughters, and Barefoot delivers.

Under the tree for S and H this year will be two books from this new princess series, as well as the award-winning World Atlas, which I can’t wait to see. Barefoot’s Greek Epic Book set with CD would be perfect for a child over 8, and I love their Greek Myths set, which is on sale right now. Barefoot has lovely bedtime books for little ones, too. (I’m eyeing a couple for my two-year-old nephew.) Here’s their Holiday Gift Guide, if you want to check it out.

(For Christmas delivery, be sure to order before 11 a.m. EST on December 15; after that you’ll pay extra for faster shipping. Shipping is free on orders of $60 or more.)

Prima Princessa
Prima Princessa
Prima Princessa sent me one of their DVDs a couple of months ago, and I was curious if my daughters would like it. They did–and many other kids apparently do, too. Another company created by two moms (moms run the world), Prima Princessa focuses on teaching children ages 3-6 dance steps while exposing them to professional ballet performances. In each show, a ballerina fairy named Prima Princessa takes a group of preschool age children to see a condensed version of a classical ballet, and in between acts the children practice ballet steps they’ve just watched.

The DVD we saw, “Prima Princessa Presents The Nutcracker,” would be a perfect stocking-stuffer for a little dance enthusiast. It features England’s Birmingham Royal Ballet and includes mini-ballet lessons from students at the School of American Ballet, the official academy of the New York City Ballet. The show has aired on more than 400 PBS and public television stations nationwide, and you can find it on Amazon both as a DVD or instant download.

Princessa Productions also has DVDs for Sleeping Beauty and Swan Lake, and on their website you can find a Ballet for Beginners book, a ballet dictionary, ballet coloring pages, crafts for kids, preschool games, and listings of ballet schools and ballet companies nationwide.

Tea Collection

I’m currently a little obsessed with the children’s clothes at Tea Collection. (I managed to snag a few dresses for my girls online during the Black Friday sale.) Founded by (yet again) two moms, Tea’s mission is to “bring worldwide culture and modern design to children’s fashion.” And they seem to do it well. I was impressed with the quality of the garments when they arrived and love the way they mix colors and patterns.

Their new Citizen Blue line is sweet — I love this Java Garden Keyhole Dress. And this Backpacker Happy Hoodie would look adorable on any of my (many) nephews.

I’ll be sticking to the sales at Tea Collection — especially since I usually need two of everything — but it’s great to know about ethical clothing companies for kids that do high-quality stuff. If you’re looking for some special clothes this season, you may want to check them out.

Any companies or products your eyeing for kids’ gifts this year? I’d love to know!

Images: Barefoot Books, Prima Princessa, Tea Collection


by Margaret Cabaniss

I’ve done a SlowMama holiday gift roundup for the past few years now (2011, 2012, 2013), but for 2014, I had big plans. I was going to be prepared — so starting way back in January, I began pinning gift ideas that appealed to me as I came across them throughout the year, thinking that, come Thanksgiving, I’d have my list pretty much made for me.

Well. I just took a look at that Pinterest board full of great gift ideas, and I realized that 95% of them are food- and booze-related. (Hey, I love what I love.) So rather than attempt to pull together a comprehensive list of every good thing this year, I’m just making one list of some of my favorites that would make fantastic gifts for your own similarly single-minded loved ones.

In no particular order:

Polenta serving boardI didn’t even know this was a thing until I read a post on The Kitchn about hosting an Italian polenta supper party, but I was immediately on board. (Er, so to speak.) This would make such an impressive presentation, even if you’re not serving up a trough of polenta on it.

Homemade gin kitI have no idea whether this gin would actually be any good (though early indicators are encouraging), but it looks like an awesome experiment anyway — and the closest you’ll get to making your own booze without a pot still or bathtub. A fun gift for the home experimenter — or, if they’re more a whiskey fan, try Wassmund’s whiskey barrel-aging kit.

Trubee honey
We’ve talked here before about how hard it can be to find good raw honey; Trubee offers to ship it right to your home. I love their description of the honey created by their “free-range” bees as “the taste of nature in a particular place and time” — and they have different honey “vintages” to back it up. Pick up some beeswax and lip balm while you’re at it.

Cocktail books. 
This entry is a twofer because I couldn’t pick just one. I think of bartender and cocktail blogger Jeffrey Morgenthaler as sort of the Alton Brown of the booze world, breaking down the whys and hows behind a truly excellent cocktail in The Bar Book. Then help them put those newfound skills to good use: Jim Meehan’s PDT Cocktail Book lays out more than 300 cocktail recipes, including classics and new favorites from his celebrated New York speakeasy, in a gorgeously illustrated guide. I’m volunteering now as taste-tester.

White Whale mixers. Meanwhile, if they want a great cocktail the easy way, without all that fancy book-learnin’, try a small-batch cocktail mixer — just add the spirit and garnish. Hide the bottles in the kitchen, and no one need be the wiser.

Rancho Gordo Sweet SamplerI mentioned their fantastic beans in a past roundup, but they do sweet care packages, too. This one holds all the ingredients (…well, almost) to make a pretty extraordinary bananas foster.

Old Salt Gift SamplerIf their tastes run more toward the savory than the sweet, try a selection of gourmet sea salts. That black powder looks amazing.

G & G Mercantile’s Sideboard
And finally, if you can’t choose among the above, just get them the whole kit and caboodle: Garden and Gun‘s Mercantile shop offers a gift subscription to some of the amazing Southern food and drink they feature in their magazine throughout the year. This is the care package to end all care packages.

Not pictured: vintage barware, tea towels, a subscription to their favorite cooking magazine…the options here are pretty much endless. For more unique gourmet gifts and accessories, check out the rest of the G & G Mercantile or Food52’s Provisions.

Where else do you find great food-and-drink gifts? Any favorites you’re giving (or hoping to receive) this year?

PS — Don’t forget all the great homemade treats you can give as gifts this time of year: Try some roasted rosemary pecans with cranberries, chocolate truffles, or a thoughtful housewarming gift

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Veteran’s Day

November 11, 2014

Greatest Generation

I always want to post something profound on days like Veteran’s Day, but then I get writer’s block. I’ll make a confession, though: It wasn’t until about five years ago that I realized the difference between Veteran’s Day and Memorial Day. I’ll blame that on the fact that most of my childhood was not spent in the United States and November 11 in Canada is Remembrance day, when the fallen are remembered and honored.

In case you’re still in the dark, Veteran’s Day in the U.S. is when we honor everyone who has served his or her country — living and dead. Whereas on Memorial Day, we remember those who have died in service only.

Even though I hate war and violence, as a full-fledged scaredy cat I’m always moved when I think of those who risk their lives for their country. I’m also aware of the trauma experienced by those who see combat and the scars they carry from it. And their loved ones… how tough is it to have a husband, wife, son, daughter, brother, sister in the military? Families sacrifice so much.

Peace and thank you to all of our veterans today — those who never came back; those in active duty right now; and those who are safe at home.



Two Years!

October 13, 2014

Saint-Paul Girls
Yesterday marked two years home together as a family. We all remember that looong flight home, touching down in Washington, D.C., and walking through our front door to start a new chapter in our lives.

We decided last year that we’d celebrate the day we came home, since it marked the end of a long journey and the beginning of a new one — for all of us. We call it “Family Day,” or “Coming Home Day.” Every adoptive family makes their own decisions about whether and how to mark those early events: Some celebrate the day they met, for instance, or when they went to court in Ethiopia. But even though those were unforgettable days, and we talk about them a lot together, celebrating the day we got home felt right for us.

Daddy & Girls
And so we did: We spent lots of great family time yesterday, and we went out for Ethiopian food for dinner with B’s mom, my brother and sister-in-law, and our nephew.

Ethiopian Food
As for an update on how things are going, things are pretty much the same as they were at 18 months, except that everything has just deepened and solidified. S and H are flourishing — happy, healthy, and growing like weeds. B and I have a hard time imagining life without them; we continue to feel so blessed that we get to be their parents.

Special family time continues today, since my mother-in-law is in town for a couple more days and B took the day off. It’s also Canadian Thanksgiving Day so I’m baking a pumpkin pie and we’ll open some delicious ice wine from a Nova Scotia vineyard to celebrate the occasion. (I still maintain that October is the superior month to celebrate Thanksgiving, instead of November.) Happy Thanksgiving to all my Canadian readers!

Images: B and yours truly



Party Planning as a Mom

September 22, 2014

R's Bridal Shower
I used to run black tie galas in Washington, D.C., managing staff and volunteers and all the details from start to finish, but for some reason I still haven’t figured out how to throw a party of my own as efficiently now that I have kids. Makes sense, I guess: When I used to plan an event, there were a few days beforehand when nothing else got done — meals, laundry, grocery shopping. But now it’s a different story.

R's Bridal Shower
This past Saturday, I hosted a bridal shower for my dear friend, and as it seems to happen whenever I’m planning a party at home, I was still wondering the day before how I was going to pull it off. The courtyard needed to be cleaned and set up, the house needed to be tidied and at least partially cleaned, gluten-free desserts had to be baked, cocktails had to be mixed, food prepped, cards written, glasses and cutlery washed, tablecloths ironed, flowers put in vases, decorations made and put up, a last-minute grocery run made — and, of course, the usual dilemma of what to wear. And then there was the regular Friday stuff that already takes up my whole day: homeschooling, meals, snacks, six-year-old needs, bedtime routines, etc.

Bridal Shower Cocktail
Luckily, I have a husband who can take over for a while and leave me to entertain my guests, which he did, and a couple friends came over early to help with last-minute details. It all came together, and everyone had fun; even I enjoyed myself, which isn’t always possible when you host an event.

My best advice when your mama brain is overwhelmed and you’re not sure how things are going to go: Serve a strong cocktail when everyone arrives — then no one cares what happens after that! (Kidding.) (Sort of.)

Hopefully in time I’ll get better at juggling party planning and family life, but at least for now I think it appears that I can manage it all. I’d love to hear your tips for how you plan and host parties with kids underfoot!

Images: Zoe Saint-Paul


What Do You Pair with Rose?

September 16, 2014

Portrait of Rose
I’m throwing a bridal shower this weekend and planned a simple wine tasting for the main event. I’ve chosen rosé, which may sound strange, since it’s sometimes thought of as the ugly stepsister in the wine cupboard, but it’s more interesting than people realize. There are many varieties, it can be very versatile, and it’s just so pretty — perfect for a group of women celebrating a bride-to-be on a warm September afternoon.

I prefer trying wine with food, since it can make all the difference in the way a wine tastes. I want to have a few different food pairings to sample with each wine, but I’m still undecided. With Spanish rosés, anything seems to go, but I’ve also got two French rosés, so I’m not sure what the ideal pairings would be. Cheese seems a no-brainer, and charcuterie, too. Maybe shrimp? I’ve got to go gluten-free, too, so I need to keep that in mind.

Are you a fan of rosé? What do you love to pair it with? If you’ve got any favorite go-to sites I should check out to help me make some decisions, I’m all ears!

Image: Ana-Rosa Tumblr


Pull Up a Chair

August 1, 2014

S with Styled Hair
When we arrived at camp last week, hair braiding was offered for the kids. Both S and H wanted to do it, though I wasn’t quite sure how it would go, as their hair is still pretty short. Both of them sat for a long time, taking the pain like pros, as the stylists combed their hair out; eventually, though, I spotted the face of my tender-headed little S and knew she’d had enough. As I approached to ask if she was okay, her bottom lip began to tremble and she burst into tears in my arms. Not the way I wanted her to start camp! I pulled her out of there, Daddy gave her a lot of love, and she recovered.

I made a point to watch what the stylist was doing with H’s hair, and later I asked S if she wanted me to try styling her hair. She did, and it ended up pretty cute, if I do say so myself. Not as professional looking as H’s, but at least S felt like she had fun hair, too. H’s style lasted three days — I just spruced up her loose locks in the back each morning. The hair bands bothered S when she laid down to sleep, so I took them out and she wore colorful headbands for the rest of camp, which she was very happy with.

H's Hair Style
Of course, then there was my hair, which I have never been good at doing much with; my new fall-back is to throw a hair band on it to distract from the fact that I haven’t showered for a while. At camp one day, I peppered my scalp with a little lavender body powder for a sort of dry shampoo, but that made it look like I have more gray than I do. Oops.

S and H
Here’s S (on the left) and H, sporting their new ‘dos. Too cute, huh?

For our Friday happy-hour chat, I’m offering an enlightened mud slide; the name made me smile when I saw it on Tasting Table. Grab one and tell me about your high and low of the week! Here’s mine:

Low: Re-entry day on Monday, after our family time away, was hard on everyone. We also had some sickness in the house this week. And, as I wrote about Wednesday, so much tragic news.

High: Hmmm, not sure… I got to see Margaret’s lovely face one day while she was in town; I had success using my new dutch oven; I had some sweet moments with my favorite girls.

Bonus question: Do you spend a lot of time on your hair or your child’s hair? Got any favorite styles or tutorials online that you love? 

Enjoy your weekend, friends, and I’ll see you back here on Monday!

Image: Zoe Saint-Paul